The Power Of Blue Socks: A Symbol of Support, Strength, and Inspiration for Blue Sock Divorce

An unexpected package arrived in the mail.

My dearest long term friend heard something in my voice during our last conversation. We had shared grad school, and witnessed each other juggling kids and careers for a few decades. It took a friend that actually ‘knew’ me to jar me out of my fear. This package and note did just that.

My current situation was rough. 

My divorce trial was pending, and I had run out of funds. When I told my attorney I would have to go it alone, he kindly agreed to review some of my documents and answer any procedural questions I had—though it still came with a fee.

Meanwhile, I was trying to keep my smile and my usual optimistic attitude, but I was chronically stressed, shaken and unable to sleep. I experienced intense bouts of emotional numbness, an inability to take a full breath and an odd sense of something warm being poured over me from my head and down to my toes. I would later learn that these were panic attacks. 

Back to the package. You can probably guess by now:  It was a special pair of blue socks. The socks featured an image of a flustered girl  with a broken umbrella and the words “ F*** This S***” on them. Laughter brought a welcome release. But it was the note! The note made all the difference.

“Wear these every time you have to go to court. I have a matching pair and will be wearing them in support of you and who you are. Don’t let this situation make you doubt yourself. I see you and know what you are capable of.” 

As I put each sock on, I laughed, I cried and I felt a certain personal power return from being reminded of who I am. My feet, and socks, were firmly on the ground. As I entered that courtroom to represent myself for the first time, I felt supported, grounded and I knew that it would be okay, no matter what happened.

Blue socks are a reminder to me, and now to you, of how powerful a simple pair of socks can be. Having your feet on the ground, supported and strong, can make all the difference. I share this gift and it’s message of loving strength & perseverance with you.

If you are in the midst of your own volatile divorce, please find a pair of blue socks As you wear them, know that you are supported and seen by myself and others that have been right where you are.  Hold onto yourself - you will make it through this.